At some point in our lives, we have to stop asking why. Why did this happen to me? Why me? Why not someone else? Is it the way I look? Did I ask for this? What did I do to deserve this? Why, why, why, the never ending why record that never stops spinning, over, and over, and over, and over again. But what if we spun that spinning around? What if we decided to just stop asking why, and got rid of that record for good?
I think that that is a really healthy idea, because obsessively asking why just makes us sicker and sicker, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. It does not heal us, it does not bring us comfort, it does not grant us liberty or freedom. It keeps us shut down,unable to function properly, and it pins us down in dungeons of darkness and self-pity, crippling us from becoming the best we can ever be.
Asking the question, why me, continuously, drains and depletes us. It does not bring or give the answers, and the likelihood of our ever finding the answer(s) is zero, to many of our traumatic why me experiences. What does not have to be zero, what should never have to be zero, is the sum of your life, and how you have lived it after your trauma. There is nothing fulfilling or wholesome about why me. There is everything worthwhile in turning that around and claiming, “I deserve better! I can do and be better than what happened to me. I can rise above it!” Let that be your ‘broken’ record. Let that be your new song. Play it, dance to it, until it becomes your reality.
Be grateful for every breath you breathe, for every good door that is opened to you, for every opportunity that comes your way, and for every chance to become the best version of you. Snap out of why me and soar with, it can only get better from now on! You have survived thus far, now give yourself the opportunity to live and to thrive.
Inexplicable why me. There can be so many answers that really lead to nothing. The one constant is that no matter how much you ask that question, it does not erase what happened to you, instead it makes you relive what you no longer want to remember. why me never helped anyone, and it’s not going to start with you. What has helped many is the hope and the determination to begin their lives afresh. Their new beginning has taken them to places they never thought possible, and the same can be for you, if you will only stop dancing to why me.
Stop playing the why me record that leads to a path of self-destruction.
Change that broken why me record to a new song, “I am alive to thrive!”